Note about language: This article was written in 1977 and as such uses language such as "he" and "him" as generic terms for children, professionals and parents. ,,This article is written by a parent who feels she is one of a "lost generation of parents" who feel intimidated by or angry with professionals. This is because of past experiences, current dilemmas and mixed messages. The author gives reasons and examples, and goes on to provide some suggestions that could be helpful to the parent, the professional, and therefore the child. She says that changing habits of communication cannot happen without the efforts of both parents and professionals. Keywords: Families, Professionals