This paper argues that we have constructed a society in which the main burden of care has been placed on women and the burden of income-earning on men. This is only one way of handling these key tasks and since that structure is changing so must the nature of caring itself. The author goes on to analyse the trends such as marriage and children, and women in the labour force, and to clarify that "community care" has in fact meant a reduction in government expenditure. Noting the pressures on carers, suggestions are made for supporting carers, redefining our attitudes towards who should be carers, looking at new models of shared living, and further research needs. Keyword: Community Development